-By Happy and Healthy Mama, Heather Jones
I am a new mom, well, 7 months new, and like most moms (new or seasoned), there is a point in time when you probably feel not only overwhelmed by life itself, but also cannot remember when you did something, and I mean really did something for YOURSELF.
I have never done something like this before, but now that I have, it will definitely be something I make time for and attend each and every opportunity I get (within reason of course).
I had the pleasure and the opportunity to attend Fit4Mom’s Lisa Druxman and Farel Hruska’s GRIP Mom Retreat, just about a week and half ago on May 7th & 8th, which I had learned about on Lisa’s Motivating Mom Podcast. Although I was skeptical at first, it was my husband, Sean, who really encouraged me to go for it and do something for myself, outside of the norm.
The retreat was a 24-hour, overnight stay at Sacred Mountain Retreat in the beautiful, quiet town of Julian, CA. As a Southern California girl, I had never even known that this place existed. Sacred Mountain Retreat, nestled in the mountains up the windy highway 78, was quaint, quiet, beautiful, peaceful, and deserted; the perfect destination for a little R & R.
Immediately, Lisa and Farel were two of the most welcoming people I have ever met and their introduction set the stage for the next 24-hours. I feel blessed to have these two strangers care so much about making this a beautiful experience for me. The six other women on the retreat were all beautiful, intelligent, charismatic, and inspirational mothers that I can say have become great friends that I will always stay in touch with, and who will always have place in my heart. We engaged in activities that I never thought would teach me so much about myself. Friendships were built, tears were shed, and nature was explored.
The GRIP Retreat brought out a part of me that just needed a little push—self empowerment, meditation, creativity, strength, love, and confidence. This retreat helped me learn how to manage my stress levels, balance my time at home, and find what was most important to me in this moment. Lisa Druxman’s MITs (Most Important Things) activity helped me realize what were my priorities right now in my life and that it IS okay to focus on some things more than others, and ALWAYS make time for myself.
The quiet time was relaxing, the conversations were inspiring, the environment was refreshing, and the view was astounding.
The dinner was amazing, the meditation was relieving, the hike was beautiful, and the art project was therapeutic.
I am forever grateful for this opportunity. There are no words that can truly describe the experience that I, and the six other ladies had at Sacred Mountain Retreat, but I hope that my perspective and this short description can motivate and empower other moms out there to attend something like this or do something for yourself at some point in the near future.
After being on this retreat and learning from the inspiring Lisa Druxman and Farel Hruska, here are a few words to live by, and if this can uplift at least one person, then I will be forever grateful and feel like this blog has done its job.
- Do Things That Bring You Joy
If it does not bring you joy, don’t do it; if you MUST get it done, but it does not bring you joy, find a way to outsource it
- Be Grateful Always
If you wake up in the morning and do not feel the top of the coffin, than today will be a GOOD DAY
- Take Care of ME
You cannot accomplish your goals, or take care of the people you want to, if you are not taking care of yourself first
- Meditate Often
Find quiet time in the busy, everyday life, even just 2 minutes per day, to allow you to rejuvenate and start or end the day fresh (for a newbie like me, Lisa & Farel recommended Calm.com for a timed guided meditation session & I LOVE it)
Love in every act you make, every word you speak, and how you think of yourself. Send love to friends and family often; a small, handwritten card can be the most precious gift you can give
These are just a few things that I learned from Lisa & Farel, and remind myself of whenever I start feeling frustrated, overwhelmed or stressed.
Finally…BELIEVE – the last activity of the retreat was to create our “I Believe…” statements. These statements are meant to focus on what matters to you and in your own life, as well as to stand by them every day. I was touched, uplifted, and encouraged by the 8 other women’s belief statements, so I have decided to share mine below. I hope that I can help shed light and empower you to create your own belief statements to help inspire you everyday.
I believe in love.
I believe in family values and tradition.
I believe that every move I make, action I take, and word I speak will have an influence on my child’s future.
I believe that one of the best sounds in the entire world is laughter.
I believe that strength is not determined just by how much weight you can carry.
I believe that success comes from hard work and determination.
I believe that I can achieve anything I put my mind to.
I believe in prayer & that God will provide.
I believe that I will be happier when I embrace what life has to offer.
I believe in the power of gratitude.
I believe that exercising everyday will create a happier & healthier ME.
I believe in good, fresh, clean food.
I believe that a delicious, hot, fresh brewed cup of coffee can make every morning better.
I believe that music brings joy.
I believe that with every hug & every kiss, my marriage will grow stronger.
I believe that I am creative, I am intelligent, and I am beautiful.
I believe that I am strong and powerful.
I believe that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks; I am who I am.
I would like to end by saying THANK YOU. Thank you for following me and showing your support by reading this blog. Thank you to the women I met in Julian–Liberty, Crystal, Christy, Karima, Jen, and Mareya–you now hold a special place in my heart and I thank you for the support you have all given me already. I hope that our friendships bloom along this journey. And…thank you to Lisa & Farel, you are the reason that I had this opportunity in the first place, and I am forever grateful to you both. I am extremely overwhelmed with joy to have met you and have your support and love along the way! You are truly amazing and inspiring.